|"I took the path less traveled." Robert Frost|
Caregiving, whether for a young child or someone who needs assistance, can seem endless. Caregiving requires that we set aside our own needs to attend to the needs of someone else. There may be some rewards for doing that, but - let's not kid ourselves -- it can seem endless and tedious. Having support helps.
Aug 29, 2016
|"Fall: a time for gathering what one has planted."|
Driving home from church on Sunday, I happened to notice in my rear-view mirror an aspen tree already golden. Mornings have a chill about them. All a reminder that fall is on its way in the northern hemisphere. It is hard to imagine that summer is nearly over. It has been a summer of fixing and maintaining our home. Dwane was so good at that, but he has not been able to for 6 years, and I did not have the energy for maintenance while caregiving. Thankfully, this summer I have had the energy to paint the garage, shed, trim on house, fix deck. It feels so good to be a good steward of this property. And to finally have energy again.
Aug 28, 2016
|"Grief is a process."|
I am ready now to take the suit Dwane wore to be viewed in to goodwill. Letting go of his possessions has been a process. A bit at a time. I am ready for a new time of letting go. But, I am so glad I took my time. I might have sold or given away all his tools, but now I realize I use many of them. But, for some of the other things, it is time for them to move into new ownership.
Aug 27, 2016
|"September: a time to harvest."|
We are almost to September, the month Dwane died. It will be one year, and it is only in the last couple months that I feel I am returning to myself. And, that has been with the help of medication for PTSD. Caregiving takes a toll. I did it with as much integrity and graciousness as I was able, and - even with my set of skills with my psychological degrees -- it took a toll. But, the good news is: time and good habits heal us. How are you doing?
Aug 26, 2016
|"Standing up straight strengthens bones." Katy Bowman, fitness expert|
As we age we can lose bone density, and caregivers need to be very aware of this as you transport your loved one. To have good posture, stand with feet hip-width apart with toes forward, do not lock knees, shift hips back so body is aligned vertically, draw ears back so they are in line with shoulders and keep neck long.
Aug 25, 2016
|"Sleeping away from home? Bring your own pillow." Brown University|
Having a familiar pillow helps your brain relax -- whereas otherwise it may stay more active in a new place. Deep breathing, relaxation, quieting the mind --- can also help.
Aug 24, 2016
|"Listening to stories lights up the whole brain, not just a few areas. Stories engage your brain more than music or math." University of California|
Listening to a story activates emotions, memories and sensations across the brain. Understanding a story requires access to all kinds of cognitive processes, social reasoning, spatial reasoning, emotional responses,visual imagery and more -- according to this study.