Aug 2, 2015

Believing in Goodness

"Disbelief turns gold into bronze and peace into war." Rumi

Do you believe in the ultimate goodness of everyone, or do you suspect others of trying to do you harm?  The world is largely how we believe it to be.  I was recently with someone who talked about how awful it was that we all had to face the prevalence of being sued.  I responded to her that I did not entertain that fear.  Of course, we can all be sued in this day and age; and as a precaution, I carry umbrella liability insurance; but - beyond that - I give it no thought.  I think we are more likely to win the lottery than to be sued.  The best option it seems to me is to create a safety plan in case disaster strikes, but, in the meantime, live in peace.  Do you expect goodness or its opposite?

Aug 1, 2015

Being Radical

"The word radical comes from the Latin radix, meaning "root".  It refers to going deep."
Matthew Fox

Matthew Fox has continued to go deep, after being expelled from the Catholic Church, partly for insisting God is both feminine and masculine and partly for saying we have an original blessing, rather than original sin.  Courageous.  It is courageous for anyone to speak his/her truth in face of opposition.  That is what we as caregivers do.  We ask staff to go into the hallucinating with our loved one, rather than arguing and correcting.  We ask everyone to treat our loved one with love and respect.  We go visit -- it would be far easier to find a reason to not go to the nursing home.  We go deep:  to be caregivers in a way that provides dignity and respect for our loved ones and ourselves.  

Jul 31, 2015


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We may not be cows or buffalo, but we ruminate just the same on our thoughts -- unfortunately, primarily negative thoughts.  We need to learn to turn off Radio NST (non stop thinking).  It's not good for our health to consume from our own consciousness that way."  Thich Nhat Hanh

Scientists are discovering more and more that people think all the time, and over 90% of their thoughts are redundant and negative.  As Thich Nhat Hanh says:  that is not good for our health.  One way to avoid that is to focus on gratitude at all times and in all situations.  I believe we will always be able to find something good in any situation.  Recently in visiting my loved one, I pushed the button for an aide.  She came promptly, and she was so respectful to my loved one.  For that I am grateful.  In a case like this we can focus on the negativity of the situation, or we can focus on what is good within the situation.  For what are you grateful today?

Jul 30, 2015

Eat For $4 a Day

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"Even a dozen organic eggs costs just 33 cents per egg." Leanne Brown

Other tips Brown gives us, is skip the "health" drinks and drink water with lemon in it instead.  This is a tip I have always used, although I do enjoy kombucha drinks occasionally.  Freeze cooked grains and lentils, as they are cheap, but take time to cook.  Use your slow cooker for cheaper, grass-fed cuts of meat.  Packaging is very expensive, so buy from bulk and bag your own.  It is so important that we eat well, but that does not have to mean expensively.  I make a lot of soups with meats without antibiotics or hormones and some good seasonal vegetables.  The other night I make stir fry with seasonal vegetables and organic brown rice.  When I cook, I deliberately make enough for leftovers, as that saves me time and gives me a quick, nutritious meal.  /Bon appetit,  

Jul 29, 2015


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"Enlightenment for the wave is the moment that it realizes it is water.  At that moment, all fear of death disappears." Thich Nhat Hanh

So, what then is enlightenment for humans?  Using the above analogy, it would be when we realize that we and the Source of All Love are one and the same.  Do you really believe that?  It seems most of us do not live as though we believe it.  Because we are caregivers for someone with a terminal illness, it might help us to consider that energy cannot be destroyed, according to Einstein, and the human being is energy.  Therefore, doesn't it make sense that something continues after the human body fails us?  Perhaps each of us waves is water after all.

Jul 28, 2015

Change Your Thoughts

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"Change your Thoughts; change your life." Dr. Wayne Dyer

It really is as simple as that.  Change the content of your thoughts, and your life and who you hang out with will change.  It is astonishing how negative most peoples' thoughts are, and you can tell by what comes out of their mouths.  Few people are focused on what is going right in their life, and there is support for the belief that what we focus on increases.  If we focus on poor health, we are likely to see more poor health.  If we focus on ingratitude, we are likely to encounter more things about which to be ungrateful.  Watch your thoughts.  It is a matter of health.

Jul 27, 2015

Sobering Statistics

"55% of people who have Alzheimer's disease haven't been told yet." Alzheimer's Asso.

Yike!  That is a staggering statistic!   And, I heard on the news this week that more women than men will eventually have Alzheimer's disease.  What can we do to protect ourselves?   Daily exercise, nutritious food, meditation or other practices to deal with stress, adequate sleep, and social activity that is stimulating.