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- Regardless of cost, the most effective nonprescription skin care routine is to use sunscreen during the day and a moisturizer at night or after bathing. Mayo Clinic
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- "Choose happiness today by taking life , complaining very little, and being thankful for the little things that mean a lot." Suman Rai
A tender moment when I saw my loved one yesterday. He was struggling to change his position in his wheelchair. I tried to help him readjust his body, as he gets so that he leans over to the left -- eventually hurting his left hip from the weight. After I had helped him, he said, "It's scary." I asked, "What is scary?" And he responded, "Not being able to move my body."
These moments of lucidity are touching and sad. The lucidity is about his physical decline; not usually about his cognitive decline, and it is not usually there. It has to be hard and scary for him (or anyone) to see their decline.
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|"Walking, kneeling, stair schlepping . . . Knees take abuse. No wonder 20% of us report having had pain in these joints in the past 3 months." Richard Laliberte|
Some things you can do to help your knees: ginger extract. 510 mg daily of ginger extract improved knee pain in people with osteoarthritis. NSAIDS (think Ibuprofen) are more effective than acetaminophen. Dr. Elizabeth Matzkin, surgical director of women's musculoskeletal health at Harvard Medical School, recommends taking them for 10 to 14 days for the most effective pain control. Frozen peas molded around the knee joint for 20 minutes each hour brings down inflammation.
Sep 7, 2014
|"The nursing home decision is a lesser-of-two-evils type of choice. It would be better if people could remain healthy and self-sustaining until they died. If that is not possible, then any alternative is not very desirable." Doug Manning |
I was called by a married couple who know me to come help them with their finances. They were moved into assisted living about one year ago. Though they do not have many financial resources, by some people's standards, they have too many to qualify for Title 19 (Medicaid). So, they are trying to pay the $4700 per month cost of the assisted living facility out of pocket, and their joint Social Security and his Veteran's pension do not cover the cost. Then, they also have medication costs, a phone, newspaper, and like to buy things to snack on that they enjoy. Very, very sobering. While I was there, the man was showing me something when he fell backward. As I was standing beside him, I was able to catch him before he fell to the floor and call for help to get him to a chair. It reminded me of my loved one's first months. Still wanting his regular life (and who can blame him!!), but not physically or cognitively able to manage it any more. In every decision I make I try to consider, What would I want done to me? No one wants to give up their freedom and be in an assisted living facility or nursing home, but statistics indicate that many of us will need that support during our end days. So, perhaps the best we can do is try to decide based on the very most humane options possible, within the given circumstances, .
Sep 6, 2014
|"These strategic culinary alliances are actually healthier when eaten together." Food Research International|
Olive oil eaten with leafy greens lowers blood pressure. Drinking tea with lemon boosts antioxidants. Using black pepper with turmeric increases the amount of curcumin, the anti-inflammatory compound in turmeric. Eating spinach with oranges increases the absorption of iron. Eating avocado with a hamburger decreases inflammation. No wonder these foods are often paired. Now culinary wisdom is supported by research.
Sep 5, 2014
|"One thing that distinguishes DLB (Lewy Bodies Dementia) from other forms of dementia, such as Alzheimer's disease, is clear fluctuations in an individual's attention and alertness." Mayo Clinic|
Yesterday when I visited my loved one, he was more lucid than he has been in weeks. It was refreshing to talk to him about our trip to Russia and how destructive Stalin had been during his power. There were still the intermittent reported hallucinations, but he was much, much more in our reality than usual. He has so much knowledge of history, it is fun for me to talk to him about it. I have been reading a book which called the Inquisition, a women's holocaust, and I wanted to know what he thought about that. He agreed. I can always trust him, when he is lucid, to give an objective and informed view on something in history.
Sep 4, 2014
|"It is from the burden of others watching and judging that the need to achieve gets exaggerated into the want for fame. It is in the unwatched space that peace begins." Mark Nepo|
I read an amusing sign in the office of the social worker at the nursing home. "When we are 40, we think everyone is watching us. When we are 50, we don't care who is watching us. When we are 60, we realize that no one was watching us at all." The reason I find it funny is that it is so true. Most of us are trained as children to think others are watching us, and, really, nothing could be further from the truth. Most people are so caught up in the drama of their own lives that they do not watch nor care about what is happening in others' lives. The exception might be those people who thrive on gossip: watching others so that they can be the first to report something they consider newsy. But, for the most part, no one is watching. No one much cares what we do as long as it does not affect them personally. Let us be at peace knowing that others really do not think about us much at all.
Sep 3, 2014
Love is the key to leading a healthy, happy, productive life which also serves the higher good of the Universe. Love of oneself and others is the key. We can always withhold the supportive word, or we can give it generously. Sometimes out of fear that there is not enough good to go around, we withhold our love. But, we and all others will always benefit when we give our love.
Sep 2, 2014
|"In the sunlight of awareness, everything becomes sacred." Thich Nhat Hanh|
I heard Mark Nepo say recently that the original definition of sacrifice was: to give up something in order to stay close to what is sacred. Interesting in that we caregivers give up much. We give up the role that the person we have loved has in our lives as he or she is no longer able to function within that role. We give up our freedom to come and go as we wish. We give up spending money as we might want, such as in traveling, to pay for the extreme cost of medical care. Perhaps it is helpful to think of those givings-up as a way we come closer to what is sacred. Being a caregiver is a sacred task, and we can use that task to come even closer to who we always meant to be -- a sacred journey.
Sep 1, 2014
|"Anti-inflammatory antioxidants and caffeine increase brain connections that process and store information." Prevention Magazine, September, 2014|
Another report that the antioxidants of home-brewed green tea and coffee are good for your brain. This research also found that drinking green tea decreased your risk for cancer, reduced the risk of your having a stroke, guards against neurological disease and may help burn fat - along with exercise. Of course, as with anything one does not want to drink to excess. The research was done with drinking 3 cups of green tea per week.