Perspective

"Know that you are in command of your situation at all times," Rasha.

Sometimes it does not feel like one is in control of what is going on around us, and I like what Viktor Frankl acknowledged about that. He was not always able to be in control of his situation, living in a concentration camp, but he came to the awareness that he could always control his attitude. I agree. Although not always easy, one can always choose how to respond.

I try to encourage Dwane to do the things that he is able to do. Yesterday, he was calling in for refills on his medication. He tried three times and said that three times they hung up on him. I took the phone and called and discovered that there was something wrong with our phone; the person answering at the pharmacy was unable to hear me. Dwane's first response when he was not able to get through was to blame. That is always his first response: to blame the instrument or the other person. Has it always been like this, or is this part of his dementia? I think both are true. It is his tendency, and it is increasing. It is part of what prevents him from solving problems; his inability to look at his own part in the malfunction. Interesting.