Minding Our Own Business

"Don't go hoeing in someone else's psychic garden.  What if their pain is exactly what their soul needs for its growth?  There is no way for you to know the lessons that will best serve them." Dr. Carleton Whitehead

As caregivers, whether we like it or not -- and I do not like it, we have to take some control over someone else's life.  That has been the hardest part of caregiving for me:  to interject my control over someone else's will.  We, as caregivers, do have to take some control; there is no way around it, but we do not have to try to save the person from the feelings he/she may be having about their situation.  As caregivers, we do have to ensure safety and dignity for the person, but we cannot make their life perfect --- and perhaps that is good for their soul.  If we admit it, our lives are not perfect either, are they?  Challenges are a part of life, and if dealt with, can be very good teaching points for our souls.