Light a Candle

"Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle." Mark Twain

How many times have we, as humans, cursed something, instead of seeking answers?  Perhaps we curse the dementia, or whatever has taken over our loved one and our lives.  Perhaps we curse the financial circumstances that care for our loved one has created.  Perhaps we curse the fact that we do not really have freedom -- with the constriction that caregiving places on us.  Better, it is, to seek answers, light the candle - so to speak.  If we feel constricted, find ways to be more free.  Rather than complain about caregiving, look for the goodness within it.  Rather than hate the illness your loved one has, consider it might be the perfect life plan for him or her. Rather than hate caregiving, consider what qualities the responsibility is bringing out in you.   Light the candle.