Seeing the Positive

"When you get to a place where you're seeing the positive in others more than the negative, it means you're doing the same for yourself." Tut

My conscious orientation and choice is to see the positive in life.  When I let that orientation slip, I find I am horrified to be at this point in my life with my husband in a nursing home.  No matter how I "dress" the situation, it is very, very sobering.  He deserves better, and so do I.  It is so hard for me to see him go through the physical incapacity -- even more so than the cognitive at this point.  Hard, hard stuff we caregivers deal with on a daily basis, and so hard for the loved one.