Living Life Fully

People say, "The joy is in the journey," but they rarely understand what they are saying. You are in this focused time/space reality with goals and objectives that call you because as you identify a desire it literally summons life through you. Life summoning through you is what it's all about, not the completion of anything.

---Abraham

If you, like me, can become bogged down with all the to-do's in life, it is important to remember that it is the journey that is important and not the completion.   It is the being present to the drive, not thinking of all the things you need to do when you get home.  It is being present with our loved one, not thinking of the unfinished tasks left for us to do.  It is overwhelming for caregivers -- we have our own life and the responsibilities that come with that, and we also have the the responsibilities for the life of another.  Walking recently with a group of women, one was talking about the book that is getting a lot of attention, Being Mortal, by Dr. Atul Gawende.  She was talking about the difficulty of making decisions for someone's end of life process, and I thought - I am already doing that.  I'm not sure I want to read the book.  In hearing interviews about it, it is important to have Living Wills, which we did many years ago.  He also stresses focusing on the quality of life at the end, but not extending it -- which resonates with the decisions we made in our Living Wills.  If you do not have a Living Will or Power of Attorney for medical purposes -- and if it is not too late to get it, I urge you to get it for your loved one and for yourself.  The decisions we have to make are difficult enough knowing we are complying with the expressed wishes of our loved one when he or she was in a lucid state.