Resisting Complaining

When you focus upon lack in an attitude of complaining, you establish a vibrational point of attraction that then gives you access only to more thoughts of complaint. Your deliberate effort to tell a new story will establish a new pattern of thought, providing you with a new point of attraction from your present, about your past, and into your future. The simple effort of looking for positive aspects will set a new vibrational tone that will begin the immediate attraction of thoughts, people, circumstances, and things that are pleasing to you.

---Abraham

It is so very, very important to resist complaining.  That was one of the things I noticed in the progression of Lewy Bodies Dementia (and before I knew that was what we were dealing with): the increase in complaining.  His orientation to negativity was very wearing for me, but now I wonder if it was not just part of the disease process -- although I have not read that in any of the literature.  Even his hallucinations are of a negative, and sometimes tormenting, content.  Yesterday he was certain that the door had been taken off a car he had parked, and how would we now drive car to dinner?  Worry is often the content of his hallucinations.  Worry over the bolts he has lost, worry over the car that was taken, worry over the way he is being treated (currently) at a work situation.  I cannot stop his hallucinations, nor his worrying, but I can comfort him and listen.  I can assure him that we will take care of whatever it is that he believes has gone awry.