Authenticity and Conflict

"Living through enough, we all come to this understanding, though it is difficult to accept:  No matter what path we choose to honor, there will always be conflict to negotiate."  Mark Nepo

Mark Nepo goes on to say that the conflict will either be internal -- by our not being true to ourselves and by being invisible; or external -- by being true to ourselves which creates conflict in relationships with people who want us to be something besides what we are.  It seems to me that Nepo is correct.  If we are not true to ourselves, we will have internal conflict.  If we are true to ourselves, others will object.  This is happening currently with Dwane, who is back on the theme of believing he can live at home.  In no way does this take into account the toll on me, nor does it take into account reality.  He simply refuses (or is unable) to see that he does nothing independently -- except toileting.  He needs help with dressing, he needs someone to organize his pills, he needs someone to drive him to appointments, and he needs someone to fix meals, take care of finances, etc.  It is very stressful for me that he argues and cannot abide by what all medical people have said:  he needs assistance in his daily living activities. It is also hurtful that he so little acknowledges all the caregiving I have given him for the past five years and longer.  Perhaps it would help my stress to realize that this is an opportunity for me to be true to what is best for him and for me, or to do what he would like me to do -- which ultimately serves neither of us.