Preparation

"Success is determined by preparation meeting the moment of opportunity," Oprah.

As a dementia caregiver I find it impossible to prepare for every contingency.   Despite being here, things still happen that I have not anticipated:  lost documents, misplaced (lost?) medications, things thrown away that I meant to save, things put in the most unlikely places.  I try to give him privacy and encourage his independence, but that comes at a cost of things happening that are inconvenient if not dangerous.  It is humanly impossible to do all our business life and keep constant vigilance.  As a reader wrote, her husband gets up in the middle of the night and makes a mess in the kitchen.  We, as caregivers, need our sleep and recreation time too.  Finding it is a very challenging juggling act.