"Striving and sustaining effort toward worthwhile goals are the stuff life is build around. Without goals, without work, life become meaningless. Without goals, vision or purpose, we are susceptible to depression, boredom or dissipation of time and energy." Dr. Val Farmer.
So, how do we have goals within caregiving? One goal I set is to create a positive and structured environment. Dwane does better when things are planned, when he has plenty of time, and when things are not spontaneous. So, we have a structure to our days, so that positivity, respect and harmony may prevail. What other goals might be worthwhile? Dwane has some unexpected and unavoidable surgery coming up. I have the goal of having enough support in place to take care of him and my own well being post surgery. In fact, more support is needed in all areas now, and that is a goal I have implemented. I have also begun to think of life after this disease takes him. How does he want his service planned? What memorials? We have already decided upon the allocation of many of his things, but what about the rest? This may seem macabre to some of you, but I am very much a realist. We are dealing with a progressive and terminal disease. In fact, Dwane has passed some of the predictions for longevity within this illness.
Setting goals and achieving them needs to be in balance with creating pleasantness in one's life right now. In fact, I think that, and nurturing important relationships, are the most important goals.
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