Jul 17, 2011

Sum of our beliefs

"The most destructive force you and I have -- and the most constructive -- is our own unconscious emotional thinking and feeling state." Ernest Holmes.

I love administering the Rorschach Ink Blots because this projective instrument can reveal so much about a person that is hidden from him or her.  Hidden beliefs are very powerful.  I have seen them control the way people behave, the relationships they seek, the success they attain.  Joanne McFadden says, "If we are not experiencing what we want to experience, most likely there is a hidden belief or two at work.  We can expose those hidden beliefs by looking at a situation in our lives that we want to change and asking ourselves what belief created that situation in the first place."  This seems like good practice for any situation in which we find ourselves, even being a caregiver for dementia. Our hidden beliefs are very, very powerful.  Isn't it better to know what they are?  In the case of being a dementia caregiver, do you have the belief that you should sacrifice your own health and happiness to care for someone?  What are your beliefs around caregiving ?  Around receiving help?  Around paying someone to give you respite?   I believe we will be rewarded by taking a very good look at our hidden beliefs.  Having them in the open, in our conscious awareness, frees us from living from them. 

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