Joining Their Reality

"Do not try to change someone's reality.  Why would we want them to accept the wretchedness of their reality?" Dr. Fellner

I went to a workshop yesterday which affirmed my belief that we do not argue with or try to convince someone with dementia that their reality is not real.  If your loved one believes he or she has worked hard all day, isn't that better than what might be their reality?  If your love one believes he or she talked with their mother today, isn't that better than the reality?  Join in their reality by asking them to tell you more about it.  It beats arguing.